Bad habits can completely disrupt our lives and at times even destroy it. They can jeopardize our health both mentally and physically and ultimately even help form our character so it’s definitely a necessity to get rid of them.
Look nobody is perfect! we all know we need to exercise more, eat healthier and be more disciplined but the reality is most of us have a hard time with this and certainly need support.
The great thing is it is also possible to create good habits which you can then substitute for your bad ones. Habits are made through repetition and habits can also be broken through repetition as well.
For example, if I was to repeatedly bite my fingernails after a while it will turn into a habit regardless of it being good or bad, repetition is the way to create and break a habit.
One thing that is for sure is you cannot change bad habits if you keep negative thinking “your thoughts always perceive your actions” and you cannot make good habits either if you continue to have those bad thoughts.
Our habits can control us and our lives whilst making us miserable in the process so we must learn to overcome them in order to live a successful, happy and a healthy lifestyle. Here are some simple strategies you can follow to help you break those unwanted habits.
I know it’s hard not to focus on your bad habits but it’s also really important to concentrate on making new, healthy habits that will benefit your future.
You can replace the old with the new! this is the exciting part as you can be on a new journey of personal growth which will give you a chance to work on yourself in-depth and explore your mind and your inner world.
This means working on your thoughts, attitudes, values and emotions giving you the ability to take complete control over your life.
Now let’s start to think about good habits and how we can replace the bad with the good. There are lots of good habits we can install and implement in our lives like “the happy habit” making happiness a daily habit.
Make a commitment to be happy despite of your circumstances because the truth is problems are always going to come and go but we cannot base our happiness on how we always feel or our situation. We must learn to be happy regardless of what’s going on in our lives.
Other great habits such as, practicing gratitude, managing money wisely, asking for what you want or even tending to your spiritual needs are all good habits you want to set in concrete. And the quicker you live by these great habits the better your life experience will be.
Remove yourself from negative influences
If you really are serious and you wholeheartedly want to change for the better, but you have people in your life who are not supportive at all of your new plans. Then these people have to go! because you can’t have both.
Do not feel bad about this because your life is too precious to let these people steal it from you. Our decisions are never always easy, but we must make the decisions to sacrifice what’s not good for us now in order for us to reap the benefits and rewards later on, this is called self-love.
For example, if you smoke and you’re trying to quit but you have lots of people in your life who are also smokers and they’re not exactly the best influence then its best to stay away from them whilst you’re trying to quit. Make it easier for yourself and cut away any negativity that will trigger your bad habits.
Get the support that you need
You don’t have to do this alone, regardless of any habit that you’re trying to break remember there is always help out there.
The first step is to acknowledge that you have a problem and you need to be willing to do whatever it takes to overcome it. Seek and you shall find! look for resources that will help you and give you the support that you need.
Go and visit your doctor, talk to a specialist it’s important to make use of the resources that you have. And also remember there was a point when you lived without this habit and you were fine which means you can definitely do it again and be ok.
Do not be hard on yourself
We are all hard on ourselves at some point or another but it’s extremely important to snap out of it when we need to and to not dwell in self-pity. Self-pity is dangerous and extremely damaging in the long run because it cripples you and completely destroys your ability to help yourself.
The more you feel sorry for yourself the worse you will feel, those negative thoughts will not bring a positive outcome. If you slip up at some point whilst trying to tackle your bad habit “that’s ok, forgive yourself” just remember to stay focused on your goal and continue with it.
I once had a habit that took almost 10 years to finally overcome. I would always try and fail and i know some of you are probably thinking “wow that’s a really long time” but the point is that I never gave up trying and believing I could do it.
No matter how long it took me, I always knew I could do it and I did. Believe in yourself, don’t ever stop trying to quit your bad habits regardless of how ever many times you might fail, and you will certainly accomplish your goals. Breaking bad habits takes a lot of effort and it will consume a lot of your time but mostly it takes perseverance.
Don’t stress about it
As hard as it may be, it’s really important not to stress about your habits because the more you stress about it the more likely you are to do it.
UCLA neuroscientist “Alex Korb” had also stated that staying relaxed helps your brain make the right choices “stress weakens the prefrontal cortex” so anything at all you can do to reduce stress can help strengthen the prefrontal cortex’s control over your habits.
Remember our habits are also patterns of behavior and by breaking those patterns in the long run will lead to breaking the habit itself.
You should absolutely deliberately reward yourself for your hard work and give yourself a pat on the back whenever you need to because you certainly deserve it. This will motivate you to keep going and continue that fight for freedom and success.